Will I stay alive?

We fight. I think it is okay to assume that as human beings, whenever we feel threatened by anything, we  express aggression. Some understand it and some don't. That's fine. If we understood, we wouldn't fight. It is as simple as that. Remember that time when you fought with your mother cause she gave you too much food for your picnic. It's not the food but the fact that she is worrying herself so much that bothered you. Maybe we would worry as much for our sibling or friends. At the root of every fight there is love. Love that lays unnoticed for years together. Love that expects and feels offended. Love that is silly enough to demand even from the dead.

So, I would want to fight. It means that I love you enough to fight with you. After all, I would not start a fight with a stranger. In one of my blog posts, I talk about "I can live without you But I don't want to." This is all about that. If you are not there, will I die? Definitely not. But that's not the question. The real question is will I stay alive?

Sometimes, something just touches

Today I am going to talk about a movie with all of you.

There are two protagonists to the movie and no real antagonist. You can call the situation to be the antagonist.

I am a woman and I am inspired by the lead role played by women in a lot of movies.

This movie is different. The female protagonist probably has equal if not more presence in the film but it is the character of the male protagonist that steals the show.

The movie in principal makes you wonder about what you call home and what does security mean to you.

This movie was released in February 1978 and the maturity shown in the movie towards depiction and treatment of rape is simply adorable.

Nowhere in the movie it is made her fault, other than in her thoughts.

The way relationship, love and togetherness and companionship is depicted is worthy of a applause.

This movie is called Ghar. You can watch the movie here.

http://www.hungama.com/movie/ghar/1574505/

I would say that this movie touched me simply because it showcases one of my favourite principal given by one of my favourite psychologist, namely Unconditional Positive Regard.

If unconditional positive regard is not love then I don’t know what is!

iLLUSION

There are things in life we don’t think about much. We wish and dream for things that are not there. It so happens that these things may not even come in our lives.

What about the things that we have then? Like the fact that I can emote. I can write what I want and be myself most of the times.

The question is do I stay happy and content or do I run behind the mirage of my dreams?

The answer is balancing these two. I want to know a person who is able to do both though.

A person who is so successful on the social work front that he/she gets awards in his life. Not only that the person has ensured that he has an amazing family life but also his/her family didn’t have to suffer in any way because of his social work.

I want to meet a person whose career and family life is so balanced that no one complains ever. This may even be possible but that person should be happy and content with the way he/she is balancing.

It is so easy to become a hermit, a social worker, a housewife or an entrepreneur and just do that all the time.

Are we really able to balance?

More importantly, are we happy with the balancing that we are doing?

It may be possible for us to be 100% into the task at hand.

Is it possible for us to be 100% at all the roles we play?

This raises more questions than it answers.

Try answering this for example: are we supposed to be having one single role or are we supposed to have many? Are there multiple goals or one?

Is there one certain answer?

After all the research, I have come to understand that if I choose to believe, there is one certain answer and if I don’t there isn’t…

Looking at an eclipse, I can decide to believe that the sun is half covered or I can say that the sun is half shining.

It is solely up to me to create the illusion I choose to believe.