The most important thing that I learnt about grief was it is the best of the friend, philosopher and guide I had ever asked for. You never really send an invitation to this one or go for a consult but you definitely are disputing how much you are going to learn. Once you decide how much you are going to learn, you also have to decide how much time would you be taking to learn what it has offered to teach. Based on all this, grief decides how much pain to cause and in what doses.
When I could not look at grief so positively, I decided to take refuse in the law of karma. The law of karma tells us simply that what goes around comes around. Grief came because I loved. I loved deeply enough to not accept the separation that came.
Today, I grieve for my younger self. With every realization that has knocked on my doorstep in last few days, I feel I have grown. That tells me that I have to let go of a lot of things that were the truth and fact of yesterday, but today they cease to exist.
Today, I learnt how selfish and self-centered a person can be. I am not able to let go of my own past. It is gone long back. The idea of that past is what I hold onto and am not letting go. But I believe it is the ideas and perceptions that we have created and worshiped for years that are difficult to give up.
It is not the death but the idea of death that scares us. Death is most natural. It comes and takes you away. What remains is the idea of you. Until the last person holding onto the idea of you, lets you go, you keep lingering around. That is the real bondage.
Death goes away but the bondage causes the grief. Death can be of anything. Death of an idea, death of an emotion, death of your younger self, death of a thought... death of the physical nature is also there.
With any kind of death comes grief. Grief arising from the action of holding onto the idea that exists no more.
We may call this grief fanaticism, conservative attitude, fundamentalism, and so on. Or we may call this frustration, depression, divorce, loneliness, break up, separation, and so on.
Names may be different. The pain is same or at least similar.
The only thing that we require is to accept the pain time and again. Keep accepting it till it comes. More importantly, accept the idea of pain.
Sometimes, we are so attached to the idea of pain that parting with pain gets difficult. Ironically, death of pain can also be painful for us. That is how human mind works. It is not the pleasure or pain but the idea and the bondage of the same that makes us feel.
So, I need to accept and not hold onto. Only then will I be able to live a life that is realistic. Else, I would live in a bondage of some or the other idea.
Thank you grief for being my friend, philosopher and guide.
Wait, I don't want to get too attached.
:)
When I could not look at grief so positively, I decided to take refuse in the law of karma. The law of karma tells us simply that what goes around comes around. Grief came because I loved. I loved deeply enough to not accept the separation that came.
Today, I grieve for my younger self. With every realization that has knocked on my doorstep in last few days, I feel I have grown. That tells me that I have to let go of a lot of things that were the truth and fact of yesterday, but today they cease to exist.
Today, I learnt how selfish and self-centered a person can be. I am not able to let go of my own past. It is gone long back. The idea of that past is what I hold onto and am not letting go. But I believe it is the ideas and perceptions that we have created and worshiped for years that are difficult to give up.
It is not the death but the idea of death that scares us. Death is most natural. It comes and takes you away. What remains is the idea of you. Until the last person holding onto the idea of you, lets you go, you keep lingering around. That is the real bondage.
Death goes away but the bondage causes the grief. Death can be of anything. Death of an idea, death of an emotion, death of your younger self, death of a thought... death of the physical nature is also there.
With any kind of death comes grief. Grief arising from the action of holding onto the idea that exists no more.
We may call this grief fanaticism, conservative attitude, fundamentalism, and so on. Or we may call this frustration, depression, divorce, loneliness, break up, separation, and so on.
Names may be different. The pain is same or at least similar.
The only thing that we require is to accept the pain time and again. Keep accepting it till it comes. More importantly, accept the idea of pain.
Sometimes, we are so attached to the idea of pain that parting with pain gets difficult. Ironically, death of pain can also be painful for us. That is how human mind works. It is not the pleasure or pain but the idea and the bondage of the same that makes us feel.
So, I need to accept and not hold onto. Only then will I be able to live a life that is realistic. Else, I would live in a bondage of some or the other idea.
Thank you grief for being my friend, philosopher and guide.
Wait, I don't want to get too attached.
:)
