The
Confusing Emotion of Love
The world we live in is
really a wonderful place.
There are a lot of
things people wonder about all the time…
What am I doing?
Why am I doing what I
am doing?
How did I end up here
exactly?
Who am I?
Is this a dream?
Is the world
progressing or … ? (with a cynical grin)
Why all the negative
things are happening? (In general as well as in particular)
What is going to
happen?
Will the future bear
positivity?
Will the ending be
really happy?
After all this, I still
wonder whether I am overthinking.
The questions that have
bothered me the most in my mind wandering endeavors are about love.
Seriously, what is
love? (No jokes, no sarcastic comment, a sincere question)
And yes, this is
totally about attraction, infatuation, chemistry, ringing of a bell, so called
romantic love I am talking, generally starting after puberty. Love expressed in
all the other forms equally troubles me, but I can handle it.
I have seen
relationships. A lot of them. I always told myself, if this is what love is, I
am better off without it. I read about love and watched this kind of love
portrayed in many movies. Almost all the Bollywood movies have at least a tiny
love story in their plot. Same is the case with books. Autobiographies,
biographies, novels also are full with loads of descriptions regarding love. I
took Psychology as my subject, so, I read about love there as well. However,
the concept of love runs away from me. I never understand it.
People say love cannot
be explained, it is to be understood. Then, why people explain it? Are all
these great artists’ morons?
I understand the
concept of companionship. I think that can be one of the aspects of love. But,
can companionship alone be called as love?
Our psychology book
said intimacy, passion, and commitment all three are necessary for successful
relationships. Is the combination of three, love?
What happens when
people say those three so called magical words? Does the world change?
Can life be fully lived
without experiencing this feeling ever?
Like all the other
differences among individuals, is the feeling of love different for each
individual or is it the same? If it is same then, it could be defined easily?
But, it is not apparently that easy. So many people talk about love, but no one
person’s experience is exactly same as the other. So, there is no consensus.
Here, love becomes subjective.
What function does it
serve in our lives?
Do you miss love and
feel the void when you do not feel it?
Love is said to be
universal, but can love in its essence be accepting towards all the people with
all of their characteristics.
Can love be negative?
People say that it is
easy to love someone than hate that person. Love comes naturally.
If the feeling of love
is natural, then how do we start hating someone, sometimes, even without a reason?
The more books I read,
the more movies I see, the more I talk to people, and the more I observe
relationships, the more ambiguous becomes the concept of love.
I know people would say
why I am thinking about love. I should experience it.
The most fundamental
problem of understanding love lies here. A person cannot love somebody with
a proper planning and implementation program. People say they fall in love. No one
jumps in love as an adventure sport. One thing I have heard most about love is,
it arises in a moment without giving you any notice. They say it just happens. In
that moment people are probably not bothered to think about the driving forces
that generate the feeling of romantic love in them.
Surprisingly, the
consequences of love are discussed vastly everywhere. However, hardly anyone
speaks about the antecedents of love. What precedes the moment of realization
is not known.
So, are all those
things said, written, and experienced about love just speculations?
I still do not know how
exactly I am supposed to understand this concept without experiencing it. I am
not a pessimist to say that I would not ever fall in love. I would not be
cynical and say that there are hardly any chances of me falling in love. I am a
rational personal. The probability of me falling in love, with all the other
things kept constant, is 50%. So, I just leave everything on this probability?
I still would say that
the concept of love is unfair those who do not experience it. Because they do
not have any way of learning what love is.
Seriously, what is
love???
