To My Beloved Friends

To My Beloved Friends

A song started on the radio when I was resting after a lot of work related to project. Vaada Karo Nahi Chhodoge Mera Saath…. It took me back to the days I spent with my best friends. It was an amazing feeling. After a long day when I am reminded of my best friends because of such a sweet song, I feel blessed. The time we spent together has created a strong bond between the three of us.

There are very few people in life who understand you better than you do. They may not be there with you always but you feel relieved by only knowing about their existence in your life. The journey of life becomes easier and interesting when they are there.

They the two friends who let me grow and yet let me be childish and impulsive. I feel comfortable to share anything with them. They came into my life when I was on the verge of depression and was somewhat lost. They never tried to judge what I did and also believed in me and my dreams more than I did. It was a time of confusion and setbacks for me. No one thought that I would come out of that phrase. I am glad that they both believed I had the capacity to grow into a better person. They did not question my behaviours but they were interested in knowing the reason behind what I thought, felt, and behaved.

That support was enough for me. I started thinking that I am not such a bad person after all. I learned psychology but they believed that I can use it on myself.

Sometimes, while solving a sum, one has the knowledge, calculator, motivation, and everything else one needs to get the right answer. However, the individual ends up getting wrong answer. I believe, this is the time to check whether the method one is using is the right one or not. Then someone comes and says, “Why aren’t you trying that another method? What’s wrong in trying?” Then, one tries and gets the right answer. One understands that the answer was there all the time. One just had to look differently.

I believe this is what my best friends did to me. I was capable of changing my perspective. They helped me realize that if I do change my perspective I will get an answer. They assured me that there is nothing wrong with it.

I started looking at my former friends differently and came even closer to some of them. Then onwards I never hesitated to change and express my true self. I began my journey towards positivity. I found more friends in my classmates. I was able to build a good relationship with them. I asked my professors for help and they were there to help me. I also came closer to my family. The strengthening of the bonds made me happy and calm.

I think it is all about time. At that crucial time I needed that ‘a pinch of extra motivation’, ‘a pat on the back’, ‘a nod of acceptance’, and ‘assurance of being there’.

‘Brian Weiss’ in ‘Many Lives Many Masters’ mentions that it is not always the big events that change the mind. Sometimes, the events happening day in and day out repeatedly, change how we think, feel and, behave.

Friendship shaped me with simple day in day out events. I am extremely grateful that it did.